Autumn 2017 Bucket List

Happy Fall!

I’ve been a bit absent from the blog because of some personal issues I have going on. I’m in a strangeee place in my life and lately I’ve been struggling to feel inspired. Autumn is my favorite season and I thought a great way to feel inspired and get back into the groove of things would be to share my Fall bucket list! You guys know I love making bucket lists for each season and Fall has got to be one of my faves. I know we are already half-way into October but it’s better late than never!

Go On A Ghost Walk // There are so many fun ghost walks in the New Jersey area this time of year. I’ve heard the one in Bordentown is great and I’m definitely considering the one in Philly. I tend to be a scaredy-cat and I don’t watch horror movies, so a ghost walk is the perfect way for me to get spooked without completely freaking myself out.

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Pumpkin Patch // Last Sunday, Matt and I took my nephew and his niece to a family farm for a Halloween egg hunt. Of course, my nephew just had to choose a “worty” pumpkin to bring home, and Matt’s niece carried around the tiniest pumpkin the entire time in her little hands. Too cute! A trip to the pumpkin patch is always necessary.

Paleo Apple Crisp // I try to eat paleo when I can and I really want to try this apple crisp recipe. I’m hoping it turns out as delicious as it looks! It’s so easy to go overboard this time of year on refined sugar and carbs so I’m trying my best to be good. Even if I’ve already eaten at least a dozen apple cider donuts ūüėČ

Paleo Apple Crisp
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Trench Coat // I haven’t done much Fall shopping and I would really love to get a trench. They’re effortless, classy, timeless and they’re the perfect jacket for this time of year.

Thigh-High Boots // Also on my radar are thigh-high boots. I’m not sure if I want the high-heeled or flat variety but there are so many classy ways to wear these. I’ll definitely be picking up some sweater dresses to go with them.

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Horseback Riding // I’ve always had a love for horses and I even completed 6 weeks of lessons when I was a kid. My mom would always try to take me on trail rides when she could this time of year and I have such great memories from those times. The weather this time of year is absolutely perfect for a trail ride through Fall foliage.

Sweaters¬†// They don’t call it sweater weather for nothing! My favorite kind of sweater is the kind that feels like you’re wearing a blanket and this year I’m stocking up.¬† I’ve been obsessed with the look down below.

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Explore New Towns // With the cooler temperatures and foliage it’s the perfect time for a weekend trip or two. I’m ready to find new restaurants, coffee shops and cute parks.

Decorate // Decorating for different seasons is one of my favorite things. I always bring out my fall candles and pick out some little pumpkins to put in my room. It’s amazing how small changes can affect mood and bring new life into a space.

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I hope you all enjoyed my bucket list and are enjoying the season so far. Let me know what’s on your bucket list down below and be sure to follow my¬†Autumn¬†and¬†Fall Fashion¬†Pinterest boards for more Autumn inspo.

XO

Embrace the Struggle

Hi guys!

It’s October! And a new month brings new inspiration and new challenges. Lately, I’ve been struggling A LOT. Struggling with where I am in my career, in my life, my financial situation, my inconsistency with fitness, and so many others.

Going through a time of struggle is completely normal and is to be expected in this life. I’m finally coming to place in my own life where I’m learning to embrace it, so today I thought I would share some steps to embrace your own struggle.

1.) Learn to let go // There is so much that is out of our control. And whether you believe your path has already been laid out for you by a higher being, or you think your life is entirely dictated by free-will, it doesn’t change the fact that you are not always in the driver’s seat. The first step in any tough situation is letting go of what you cannot control and letting go of how you think your life or current situation should be. Sometimes when we try to force things that aren’t meant for us, we actually make life harder.

2.) Clear your head // The next step is to clear your head. This is perfect to do this time of year, especially if you live somewhere where you can admire the fall foliage. I recommend walking with no music or audio-books so that you can really take in your surroundings, and just listen to the thoughts that are coming in and out of your head. Once you’ve had time to filter through your thoughts, you’ll most likely have a better idea of what you really want in life.

3.) Figure out what’s working and what isn’t // Next, you want to use your new mental clarity to really think about the current issues you have in your life. You want to take a logical approach to this and not make decisions based on emotions. What steps are you taking to get out of this struggle you’re going through? What’s working? What isn’t working? Once you know this, you can move on to taking real steps to hopefully change your situation. A great book that goes into this further is¬†Awaken the Giant Within by Tony Robbins.

4.) Take real action // Although some things are out of our control, the good news is that there are some things we have the power to change. Figure out what those things are and take action TODAY. If your struggle is your current job, maybe you can update your LinkedIn page. If it’s your health or fitness, maybe you can schedule a workout with a friend. Taking action will help to alleviate some of the unease you may be feeling because you’ll feel like you’re taking an active role in making your situation better.

5.) Don’t put too much pressure on yourself // Small steps are just as important and beneficial as the big ones. Take your time and don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Sometimes we have to accept that we can’t give 110% to our goals all the time. You’re a human and there are going to be situations that just take time. If you’re doing your best, you’re doing more than enough. Don’t stop enjoying your life just because of a certain situation in your life.

6.) Learn from your experience and mistakes // Our past can be our best teacher. Sometimes we’re stuck in situations because we have something to learn. Try to understand why you’re in this current situation and figure out what you can learn from it so that you don’t make the same mistake again. I believe that sometimes we get stuck in situations because there is a bigger lesson we’re supposed to learn. The sooner we learn it, the sooner we can move on.

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Embrace the struggle (or the rain) // image via Pinterest

 

I hope this post helps some of you cope with your struggles. Remember, we are all struggling in some way but this too shall pass.

Embrace every day.

XO

 

 

Farewell Sweet Summer: 5 Things I Learned in Summer 2017

The end of summer is always so bittersweet. The sun begins to shift its position in the sky and familiar shadows start to change. The temperature at night becomes cool and crisp. Acorns start to fall one by one. And of course for many there is that dreaded, excited feeling we call “back to school”.

Autumn is my favorite season. I love the food, the holidays, and the coziness of it all. I also love the feeling of transition it brings. This transitional pull I feel in Autumn always inspires me to make necessary changes in my life in order to become the happier, healthier, better version of myself.

To become better in the future, I have to reflect on what I’ve learned this past season. So without further ado here are some things I’ve learned this past summer.

Be confident // Summer 2017 started off with a bang when I got a new job. Because of the type of environment I work in, there is a lot of pressure to make zero mistakes. Being a human and not a robot makes this experience very stressful and at times overwhelming. Of course I’m going to make mistakes! The first month was really difficult for me and I experienced a drop in my confidence. At my last job I had run an entire customer service department by myself, and now as an assistant I was being made to feel like I was dumb or not good enough. At some point after talking to close friends and family, I realized that other people’s perceptions of me do not matter. I learned that having confidence in myself actually makes me a better employee. I started going into work everyday determined to do my best even in the face of adversity. After I let go of caring what people thought of me and my abilities, I became more sure of myself and my talents. This allowed me to get out of my comfort zone and actually do a better job in the long-run. Be confident in yourself and your capabilities. Other people’s perceptions of you do not define you.

Social anxiety sucks // Yes, that’s right. Positive Patty over here is saying something sucks. Up until recently I was in complete denial that I even had social anxiety, and once I admitted it to myself it almost seemed like it had gotten worse. This summer truly challenged my social anxiety in more ways than one and made me realize what an issue it is. Being an introvert that values alone time is one thing but feeling knots in your stomach, or not being able to follow through with plans because of it, is when it really starts to affect your life. This summer I had some strong moments where I pushed through, and other times where I simply couldn’t do it. I have to say that the times I pushed through turned out great. I had a great time and felt good about myself. The times where I made excuses felt good in the moment but crappy later on. Social anxiety is something I’m more aware of now, and something I’m very determined to work on in a healthy, manageable way.

Get into nature as much as possible // This summer I started taking walks three times a week at a local trail, and I realized getting into nature makes me really happy. I also learned that walking has been proven to be the only physical activity which actually lowers cortisol levels (that pesky stress hormone). Getting outside makes you feel grounded, clears your head and allows you to remember that you and your problems are much smaller than this big world. And no matter how much we feel the world is ending, the sun will still rise every morning and set every evening. Life will go on.

Accept your body for what it is // At some point or another we all have to accept our bodies for what they are. Getting healthy and being fit are great and I think having goals for your body (as long as they’re realistic) is perfectly fine. But don’t let your current unhappiness with your body ruin a good time or an experience. This summer I had many moments (like I do every summer) where I felt uncomfortable in my own skin, and I let it affect how much I enjoyed certain summer activities, like jet-skiing, because I was too worried about what I looked like. Don’t let insecurities that are probably not even noticeable to anyone else get you down. Your body is doing some pretty amazing things to keep you alive and thriving at all times. And it will continue to do so whether you have stretch marks or not. Appreciate your body for all that it is instead of hating it for what’s it’s not.

Accept your family for who they are and cherish them// My family is large and mostly female. These are women with strong opinions and very different personalities. My oldest sister, Nikki came to visit for a week this summer from Denver and even though the house was chaos when we were all together, it brought such a feeling of comfort to have all four sisters together. We also threw a big family party and it made me realize what an eclectic mix of people I have in my life. I was never sheltered as a kid, and I was raised around many different walks of life. I gained such an appreciation for every single person that day because it made me realize why I’m such an open-minded person. Love and cherish your family for all the crazy, wonderful people that they are.

Well that’s it. Summer is coming to its end and to be honest I’m struggling with where my life is right now. But I’m an optimist and life is moving in a new direction. My experiences both good and bad will now be lessons learned. I’m excited for what’s to come (and it’s not just because of fuzzy sock season). I hope you all had an amazing summer and I would love to know what you’ve learned down below.

As always thank you for reading. Farewell sweet Summer!

XO

How to Drink Apple Cider Vinegar

For a long time I knew Apple Cider Vinegar was good for me but I didn’t know how to incorporate it into my diet. If you’ve ever opened a bottle of ACV you will know the smell is….HORRIBLE. The smell of vinegar is so overwhelming and I could never figure out how to get this stuff into my body.

If you don’t know the benefits of ACV you can research and find so many articles. Not only is it a natural antibiotic but it also contains powerful polyphenols, helps you to burn fat and is great for both digestion and immunity. The list of benefits honestly goes on and on.

I finally figured out a simple way to incorporate it into my diet and I wanted to share it with you all.

You will need:

12-16 oz of water

1-2 tsps Bragg’s Apple Cider Vinegar (with the mother)

1 slice of citrus fruit (I prefer orange)

Pinch of ginger (optional)

Pinch of turmeric (optional)

1.) Take your citrus slice and squeeze it into a cup or water bottle.

2.) Fill your water bottle and add your turmeric and ginger.


The citrus and the spices add a certain amount of tangy flavor that really helps to compliment the ACV. The combination of these ingredients tastes really delicious and refreshing. It’s the perfect way to start your morning as well.

Let me know if you guys enjoy posts like these. Nutrition was my major in college and it is an interest of mine so I would be happy to do more nutrition/food related posts.

Hope you all have a fantastic Thursday!

XO

6 Ways to be Happier Today

It’s Monday. The perfect day to talk about happiness.

I used to be the type of person who thought happiness was hard to come by. I was sort of an angsty teen and I always felt like my anxiety was going to make being happy really hard for me. Once I got out of that stage, went away to school and became the person I am today, I realized it’s not hard once you get the hang of it.

Happiness is something I feel like I’ve mastered. Both my outlook on life and my reactions to negative situations help me maintain a pretty steady level of happy. For example, on Thursday I backed my beloved car into a parked car at my friend’s house. A simple lack in judgement and absence of caution caused a major annoyance and stab to my pride that I definitely did not want to deal with. After it was over and done with my friend said, “Wow, you handled that really well.” And I replied with, “What other choice do I have?” No one was hurt, the damage was minor, the other person was extremely nice about it, and it happens to people all the time. Why let a great day be ruined by one mistake?

This kind of thing does take some time and some practice to master so I thought I would provide some easy tips to start feeling happier TODAY. I hope you all enjoy and find these useful.

Gratitude // This is so important! Wake up in the morning and think about what you’re grateful for. Go to bed at night and think about it again. Think about it in the shower too if you want. Everything from the most simple (sunlight, flowers) to the more materialistic (house, car) can be included. If you want to be successful and if you want to be happy you have to think about the amazing things you already have first. You’ll be amazed at how much this changes your life.

Nature // There are proven benefits that nature has to offer and sometimes all you need is to literally put your feet on the ground to feel “grounded”. Nature has a calming effect and can really put things into perspective. Realizing the sun will still rise and set tomorrow no matter what happens today will make you think about your problems a little differently.

Self-care // This includes many things: exercise, eating right, adequate water intake and good quality sleep. Some say the gut is the second brain in that what we eat can have serious effects on our mental state. When you’re taking care of your health, life suddenly becomes easier to manage. If you can take on your health you can take on anything.

Journaling // Journaling is a great way to release the “brain gunk” that may be floating around in your subconscious. Sometimes we don’t realize what is effecting us and journaling for 15 minutes can be a great way to get those emotions out in a safe, helpful way. It’s also really interesting to look back on.

Visualization // Or as I like to call it, imagination. I personally have always had a great imagination and I’m very good at visualizing. This is a great way to start off your morning. Take a few minutes and visualize what your life will be like tomorrow, a year from now, five years from now and so on. It’s actually really fun and you can literally imagine anything you want. Delve into your wildest dreams and really feel yourself being in the place you want to be in.

Planning // Make plans with your family or friends or even just schedule time within the week where you’ll do some kind of activity. Going shopping, going to the beach, or going out to dinner are all great options. When you have something to look forward to it makes life that much sweeter.

I hope this post helps you to achieve a happier tomorrow. I want you all to know that happiness is achievable! Sometimes it just takes a little bit of work and some lifestyle changes.

If you want to see more posts on happiness feel free to let me know in the comments below and if you want to get to know me a bit better feel free to follow me on my social media sites.

XO

Friday Favorites

Hello!

I’m back at it again with the Friday faves. Here are the things I’m loving this week. Enjoy!
Kendall Rae // I love true crime, missing person cases and conspiracy theories. This has been a fairly recent obsession and I love finding channels on YouTube that explore these topics. I recently found Kendall’s channel and she does a great job of going through the details. You just can’t help but get sucked into her videos. Not only that but she also brings awareness to some of these cases so that they’ll hopefully get solved.

Van’s Gluten Free Waffles // During the week I don’t have much time to eat breakfast and I’m usually not hungry. I usually just bring some fruit and a bag of rice chex to work or I make a smoothie and bring it with me. However, on the weekends I like having more of a treat breakfast like waffles or pancakes. I’ve been trying (and failing) to be gluten free so I wanted to find a quick, easy alternative to traditional frozen waffles. Van’s is a great alternative and they taste surprisingly good.

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Love Galore by SZA and Travis Scott // THIS SONG. I’ve had it on repeat for the last week. I personally love Travis Scott and I’ve listened to SZA in the past. If you’re a fan of rap and R&B I would recommend listening. It’s the perfect summer song and something about it is just so catchy.

Giving // Over the past year I’ve been giving to St. Jude’s which is a children’s hospital that takes care of kids with cancer and their families. No family at St. Jude’s pays for anything. I did not grow up in a family with a lot of money but if there’s one thing I’ve learned as I’ve grown up, is that we all have something to give no matter how small it is. Even if it’s just your time, give something. I have an automatic donation each month that comes out of my bank account and goes straight to St. Jude’s. It’s a small donation but it adds up! I recommend finding a credible organization that you care about and start small. You never know who you’re helping or what impact you’ll make.

Murad // About 6 months ago my mom bought me a facial for my birthday. After the facial they recommended Murad products because that’s what they used on my face. I gave in and treated myself to the expensive Murad exfoliator they used and WOW was it worth it. It’s lasted a very long time because it only needs to be used twice a week and it improves the texture of my skin dramatically every time I use it. My sister has the¬†clarifying cleanser¬†which I sometimes steal and that also works great. It helped get rid of some blemishes I was struggling with and made my face feel so clean. Definitely expensive but worth the price if you’re feeling bougie.

As always I hope you have a lovely Friday and enjoyed this list.

Happy weekend!

XO

Friday Favorites

Here we are again. How is it Friday already?

This week was exhausting but I definitely found some things I’m loving that I want to share. Enjoy!

Wilmer Valderrama Interview // One of my favorite podcasts is called The School of Greatness and is hosted by Lewis Howes. This week he interviewed Wilmer Valderrama and the interview was truly one of my favorites. His life experience, advice, and outlook on life is nothing short of inspiring. The major take-away for me was to believe I can do anything I put my mind to, while also realizing I don’t need to rush to accomplish everything at one time. The best part? Lewis replied to my comment on Youtube!

Ben and Jerry’s Caramel Almond Brittle // Yet another dairy-free flavor I’m loving. Crunchy almonds and sweet caramel mixed into creamy goodness. The perfect snack to eat after work in the sun.

Veggetti // Disregard the peculiar name. This spiralizer is only $10 at Bed, Bath and Beyond and turns zucchini into low carb pasta. I was genuinely amazed when I started using it and there are so many things you can make with zucchini noodles. I ended up trying out this amazing recipe for zucchini noodles with avocado pesto and shrimp, and it was amazing.

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Witch Hazel Toner // I seem to always get lost in the skincare section at Target. This week I picked up this Witch Hazel Toner in the lavender scent and I have been loving it. I use it in the evening after I wash my face and before I moisturize. It picks up anything your face wash may have missed and gives your face such a clean, refreshed feeling. It also helps bring moisture into your face so you can achieve glowing skin.

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Google Partners // As someone who is very interested in digital marketing this was an amazing discovery for me. Google Partners offers free certification in Google Adwords and Google Analytics. If this is something you’re interested in or if you want to pursue a career in digital marketing I suggest checking it out. Just another certification to add to your resume. Just search Google Partners and click “Join Now”.

I hope you all enjoyed my favorites this week. Let me know your favorites down below!

XO