The Gap

Hey everyone!

We’re halfway through the week and for some reason this week is crawling by. Anybody feel the same? I thought I would give you guys a mid-week jolt of inspiration by talking about something called “The Gap”. This concept blew me away and really gave me a new perspective when it comes to accomplishing my goals and making my dreams a reality so I figured it could do the same for some of you. I originally saw it mentioned on Alex Ikonn‘s video called “Understanding the Gap- Why you shouldn’t give up on your dreams” and I’m so thankful I found the video.

“The Gap” is basically the period of time between when you start something creative to when you actually get good at doing that creative thing. We all have to start somewhere and most of the time we don’t start out good or great. The problem is that a lot of people get discouraged during this period and decide not to continue on. But it is so important to continue on! That’s the great thing about dreams is that they can be as big or as small as you want them to be and you don’t have to be good to start. All you have to do is start and put action behind your ideas.

We learn as we go and that’s what is so fulfilling about making our dreams come true. It takes a lot of hard work, it takes failure, dedication, passion and action. Sometimes it takes multiple tries but if you’re passionate about something go for it. It doesn’t matter if you suck or if you don’t know enough or if you feel like you’re too old or too young. If it’s never been done before that just means you’ll be the one to create that path.

This blog for example is my passion. It’s something I thought about doing for four years and I do it solely because I enjoy it and it’s a creative outlet for me. Am I great at it? No and I probably won’t be for a long time but that’s okay because I will learn, grow, fail and succeed over the course of running this blog. If there’s something out there you want to do, go do it. Just do it and learn as you go. You’ll find your way and learn so much in the process.

I hope I helped inspire some of you and I hope you’ll go check out the video on Alex’s Channel which I have linked. I hope you all have the most amazing week! Comment below and let me know what some of your dreams are. I would love to hear them!

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-XO Amber

5 Tips for a More Positive Mindset

It’s Monday and I’m here to give you your weekly dose of Monday Inspiration! Today I’m talking about mindset.

the cutest inspiration my mom got for me

Our minds are so hard to control but if you can gain some control over your thoughts you can literally change your life. I’m still so young but I’ve been through a lot and I can honestly say that changing my mindset has made me a healthy, happier person and has made me better able to face adversity. If you can put your mind in a place that is resilient, happy and free, you can make your reality all of those things as well. Here are my 5 tips for a more positive mindset:

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Fall Fitness Inspiration

Ohhhh my gosh. It has been a full week since I’ve posted and I feel so guilty. There aren’t really any excuses that justify it but sometimes when I get home from work I’m so tired and so over staring at a screen and this week I just didn’t get around to posting. I also went away this weekend to Ocean City, Maryland which was super fun but now I’m back and ready to jump into another post! I wanted to talk about Fall fitness inspiration and what I’ve been doing lately to slowly get back into a fitness routine and make healthier habits. Fall is a weird time to get in shape . The holidays are about to be here. Hearty soups and decadent desserts replace light meals. And a warm bed feels much much better than heading into the cold to go to the gym. But that doesn’t mean it’s impossible and it doesn’t mean you need to feel deprived. These are just some easy tips I’m working on right now to shed some of this college weight and get fit for Fall!

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10 Tips on Reducing Anxiety

I’ve struggled with anxiety for a long time and over the years I’ve learned how to deal with it. If you saw me on a daily basis or knew me it would be hard to imagine that I even have anxiety. I’m very mellow and I always go with the flow but there are times when my anxiety has gotten so bad that it has caused me to self sabotage. I’ve turned down jobs and opportunities because my anxiety was telling me I couldn’t handle it. On the daily, I do very well with it and I’ve worked really, really hard over the years so that it wouldn’t take over my life. Going away to school was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done and getting a new job or traveling can be very anxiety inducing for me. A lot of my anxiety is caused by either a separation of some kind or from guilt. If I go on vacation with my boyfriend, I’m separated from my family and I end up feeling guilty that they couldn’t come. I always spend the first day on a lounge chair with a big pair of sunglasses quietly suffering and waiting for the anxiousness to let up. But everyone has their struggle and this is mine. There are so many people who have anxiety in this day and age of over stimulation and stress so I thought I would share some things I have learned that can help reduce or even help eliminate anxiety over time. Enjoy 🙂

1.) Educate yourself: I think this is one tip that is often overlooked but personally, I love being educated on different topics and if you suffer from anxiety it helps to know what is going on in your brain. Once you realize this is an issue with your brain and there is no real danger going on on the outside, you will be better able to deal with the anxiety. I always tell my sister when she has anxiety, if everyone around you is fine you should be too. The problems only exist within your own mind. Obviously, this only applies to anxiety which is caused by fears that don’t really exist. If you’re actually in a hostile situation or a situation that is unsafe that is causing anxiety then you need to listen to that signal and try to get out. But a large majority of the time we overreact and overthink because of what this disorder is telling us and we cause so much stress and turmoil when we don’t need to be feeling that way. Learn about it, talk about it and know that you’re going to be okay. Helpful Article

2.) Eat well and drink water: I know, I know you’ve heard it a million times. Your grandma has told you, your mom has told you, now I’m telling you but it really does help! Sometimes you feel like a hot mess but you just need some water. Feeling dehydrated or being dehydrated and not knowing it isn’t going to help your anxiety, it’s only going to make you feel worse. When it comes to food some people say the gut is like a second brain and what we eat can greatly affect our anxiety. I actually picked up a book over the winter called Eat Yourself Calm which I have yet to read (oops) but I got it because I want to eat better and I want to keep my mind healthy. I’m a big believer in healing yourself from the inside out and using food as medicine before going to other alternatives.

3.) Get out of the house: There is no worse feeling than feeling like you’re trapped in the house with nowhere to go. It’s just you and your anxiety hanging out alone and you feel like you’re on the verge of a meltdown. GET OUT OF THE HOUSE. Go for a walk, go to a park, go to the store. If you have work to do go to a public place like a coffee shop or Starbucks. Just get outside, breathe in fresh air and know that you are not alone. There is life outside and it’s important not to shut yourself out.

4.) Be productive: If you feel well enough try to get stuff done. It’s a distraction and you’re improving your life. Maybe you can clean the house or get some work done. Maybe you can start a new workout regimen. Organize your closet and make your space presentable. If you have a lot of clutter clear it out. It can be very therapeutic to get some stuff done and to create a space that feels warm, safe and inviting.

5.) Exercise: Release the stress and let the endorphins flow. Do a workout you enjoy and do it in a place you feel comfortable. Even if it only makes you feel better for 30 minutes it’s still worth it and your body will thank you for it in the future.

6.) Pamper yourself: Light candles that have calming scents like lavender or vanilla and take a bath. Pet your cat or dog and cuddle up with a good book or one of your favorite movies. Take care of yourself and know that you’re worth something.

7.) Meditate: This is something that is very, very new to me but I’ve been trying to do it more. I want to make it a part of my daily routine eventually and it’s something that can really help you gain control of your thoughts. You can start small with just ten minutes a day like I’ve been doing and you can increase as time goes on. There are apps you can use, you can listen to music or you can just sit in silence. Meditation releases your thoughts and helps you to breathe deeply and focus on nothing for a little while.

8.) Focus on the bigger picture: You are one small blip on the screen and even though it may feel like your problems are consuming you, they may be small in comparison to other things going on in the world. I always like looking up at the sky and reminding myself how vast the world is. Just because something feels earth shattering in your world doesn’t mean it feels that way for other people. Remember that there is a big world out there that is much bigger than some of the things you’re worried about.

9.) Surround yourself with people who understand: There is nothing worse than being around people who mean well but just don’ get it. Anxiety is not sadness, loneliness or regular stress and it can be very frustrating to be around people who don’t get that. Know that these people mean well but they simply cannot understand what you’re going through. If you are a person who doesn’t have anxiety but has friends with it just remember that they can’t help what they’re feeling. You may not even have to say anything, just be there for them. And remember never mock a pain you have not endured.

10.) Get help: Lastly, don’t feel bad if you need professional help. I went to a therapist when I was 14 and it greatly helped me to find healthy coping mechanisms and to better understand why I was anxious. Since then, my anxiety has been much better and I’m better able to cope. When I first started going I didn’t like it at all but over time I really started to improve so if you go give it a chance.

I hope this list helps some of you. Please remember that this advice is just based off of my experience and I’m not a medical professional. I’ve really gotten to a good place in my life with my anxiety and I continue to push myself to do things I want to do even if my anxiety tells me not to. Comment below and let me know what helps you guys cope with your anxiety. I wish you all the best of luck and so much happiness!

-XO Amber

Fall Inspiration

I LOVE Fall. LOVE. It’s my absolute favorite season and I love everything that comes with it: the leaves changing colors, pumpkin spice everything, cooler air and of course the clothes. I start searching for Fall inspiration toward the end of summer and Pinterest really helps me to organize it and figure out what I want to wear, eat and do in the upcoming season. I already got two candles: Marshmallow Fireside and Sweet Cinnamon Pumpkin as well as some festive body lotion Marshmallow Pumpkin Latte. Being festive for different seasons and holidays is my thing and I really enjoy it so I thought I would share some things that are inspiring me right now and getting me pumped for Fall.

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Happy September

I’m sitting here on this Sunday morning feeling so incredibly inspired and grateful for the life that I’m living. My life is so full. Full is really the only way I can describe it. I have many wonderful friends, and a family that is crazy and chaotic but also fiercely supportive and filled with love. My longtime boyfriend and I are dating again after breaking up for a little over 6 months. I have a job and a blog. And I have so many more goals that I want to accomplish before this year is over. I am watching my friends grow into adults and start their careers. I’m quietly observing the subtle changes that are taking place in all of our lives. This is such an interesting time in my life and I can’t help but feel like I’m so excited for what’s next.

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Getting a Job after College

If there’s one thing I’m good at, its getting jobs. I’ve had a lot of them and I’ve learned a lot in the job search process. But one job search that was incredibly daunting for me was the one coming out of college. With relatives telling you you’re not going to find a job and professors pushing you to get your Masters it sometimes feels like there is no hope in getting a job. You feel like you were a freshman yesterday and suddenly you’re walking in graduation going from student to unemployed adult. I was fortunate enough to get a job only a month after graduating and I wanted to to share my tips and tricks with you all so I can help some of you looking for advice. I know how scary this time in your life can be and I hope I can be some help to someone out there.

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