It’s October! And a new month brings new inspiration and new challenges. Lately, I’ve been struggling A LOT. Struggling with where I am in my career, in my life, my financial situation, my inconsistency with fitness, and so many others.
Going through a time of struggle is completely normal and is to be expected in this life. I’m finally coming to place in my own life where I’m learning to embrace it, so today I thought I would share some steps to embrace your own struggle.
1.) Learn to let go // There is so much that is out of our control. And whether you believe your path has already been laid out for you by a higher being, or you think your life is entirely dictated by free-will, it doesn’t change the fact that you are not always in the driver’s seat. The first step in any tough situation is letting go of what you cannot control and letting go of how you think your life or current situation should be. Sometimes when we try to force things that aren’t meant for us, we actually make life harder.
2.) Clear your head // The next step is to clear your head. This is perfect to do this time of year, especially if you live somewhere where you can admire the fall foliage. I recommend walking with no music or audio-books so that you can really take in your surroundings, and just listen to the thoughts that are coming in and out of your head. Once you’ve had time to filter through your thoughts, you’ll most likely have a better idea of what you really want in life.
3.) Figure out what’s working and what isn’t // Next, you want to use your new mental clarity to really think about the current issues you have in your life. You want to take a logical approach to this and not make decisions based on emotions. What steps are you taking to get out of this struggle you’re going through? What’s working? What isn’t working? Once you know this, you can move on to taking real steps to hopefully change your situation. A great book that goes into this further is Awaken the Giant Within by Tony Robbins.
4.) Take real action // Although some things are out of our control, the good news is that there are some things we have the power to change. Figure out what those things are and take action TODAY. If your struggle is your current job, maybe you can update your LinkedIn page. If it’s your health or fitness, maybe you can schedule a workout with a friend. Taking action will help to alleviate some of the unease you may be feeling because you’ll feel like you’re taking an active role in making your situation better.
5.) Don’t put too much pressure on yourself // Small steps are just as important and beneficial as the big ones. Take your time and don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Sometimes we have to accept that we can’t give 110% to our goals all the time. You’re a human and there are going to be situations that just take time. If you’re doing your best, you’re doing more than enough. Don’t stop enjoying your life just because of a certain situation in your life.
6.) Learn from your experience and mistakes // Our past can be our best teacher. Sometimes we’re stuck in situations because we have something to learn. Try to understand why you’re in this current situation and figure out what you can learn from it so that you don’t make the same mistake again. I believe that sometimes we get stuck in situations because there is a bigger lesson we’re supposed to learn. The sooner we learn it, the sooner we can move on.
I hope this post helps some of you cope with your struggles. Remember, we are all struggling in some way but this too shall pass.
Embrace every day.