April Showers bring May Flowers

Happy April!

It finally feels like Spring here and I can’t help but feel like this is a time of new beginnings. As the flowers bloom and the dead grass turns green again, I feel something blooming within myself as well. It’s the perfect time of the year to start something new. Look back at your New Years resolutions. Are you working toward your goals? Or have you fallen behind?

Always remember it’s never too late to chase something you want. You can always start over and Springtime is a great time to do that. I recently took some huge leaps in my life and really took some risks. And although it can be scary and uncertain, I’m feeling so optimistic.

In Autumn and Winter everything goes to sleep. The season is dormant. And although the holiday season and the start of the new year tells us to begin something new, our instinct is to hibernate. In the Spring there is a new awakening. Nature is alive again and inspiration runs freely. Take this time to really think about what you want out of life.

This month I’m focusing on creating a better relationship with myself. What are you working on this month? I would love to know.

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23 Things I’ve Learned by Age 23

Hello my loves!

This past Friday, I turned 23! It’s my first birthday out of college and it’s the first age that actually makes me feel like an adult so I thought I would reflect on some things I’ve learned along the way.

1.) Be kind, always.

2.) Accept yourself for who you are and be proud of it.

3.) Accept your family members for who they are. No one is perfect and they’ve most likely made you who you are today.

4.) Save more than you spend and live below your means.

5.) Say sorry. Just do it.

6.) Surround yourself with people who make you FEEL good.

7.) Do things that scare you or make you feel uncomfortable.

8.) Listen to your body and respect it.

9.) Eat vegetables. Literally, this past week I suddenly started liking them. Is this a 23 year old thing?

10.) Be authentic.

11.) Cry when you want to cry, laugh when you want to laugh. Allow yourself to feel it all.

12.) Know that life is HARD. You’re not the only one who thinks so and we’ll all get through this together.

13.) Know that life is BEAUTIFUL. There are many more beautiful things in this world than ugly. You just have to open your eyes to them.

14.) Travel when you can. It is possible to do it cheaply and it’s incredibly valuable.

15.) Do things YOU enjoy. If you don’t like bars, don’t go to them. If you hate roller coasters, don’t ride them. Don’t ever think you need to like things other people like just because it’s “normal”.

16.) Eat good quality food. There’s nothing like a good quality piece of bread. Am I right or am I right?

17.) Do your best even when you feel like you have nothing left in you to give. Give it your all.

18.) Learn time management. It will save you frustration in the long run.

19.) Learn how to be alone. It may not always be enjoyable but it is VALUABLE.

20.) Health really is everything. Both physical AND mental. Both are affected by your diet.

21.) Take that risk. It’s better to have taken it and fail then to always wonder what could have been.

22.) Talk to someone who has different opinions than you. You might just learn something.

23.) Live your dreams. Create your life. Go for it. You can do it!

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Ready to take on the world with this guy by my side

I really feel like 23 is going to be my year. Big things are on the horizon. Stay tuned 😉

XO

My New Year’s Resolutions

Happy New Year!

I hope you’re all enjoying 2017 so far. I just got back from an amazing trip to Madrid to visit one of my best friends who is currently living there. Although it was an amazing trip we had some nightmarish airport experiences, and I was sick for the majority of it. I am definitely so happy to be home and although I am definitely not looking forward to returning back to work on Monday after a two week hiatus, I am so thankful to be feeling healthy and motivated again.

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NYE in Madrid

I’ve been in a bit of a rut the last two months and I’m finally feeling like myself again. I swear, working in a dark building is affecting my mood! Having a two week break where I actually saw sunlight was good for my soul. With this new found motivation I’ve come up with three solid resolutions for 2017. I have such a good feeling about this year!

  1. Stop giving an F: Yes, this really is my resolution. I am that person who cares wayyy too much. I care way too much about what people think and say about me. I easily feel insecure around people I’m not entirely comfortable with, and I hesitate sharing my true opinions on things. I let people get away with saying rude things without consequences and I don’t stick up for myself nearly enough. I feel guilty for things I shouldn’t and I allow people to make me feel bad for things when in reality I did nothing wrong. This year I will care less about all of these things and instead focus on things that really matter like getting involved in volunteer work and becoming the most authentic version of myself. I will no longer hide the person that I am to please others and I will respect myself enough to stand up for myself and for what I believe in.
  2. Get my finances in order: My 23rd birthday is in less than two months and I’ve been out of college for 7 months. I think it’s finally time for me to get my life together in the money department. This is an area of my life I have always struggled with and I want to focus on educating myself on how to properly use money to make more money. I also have debt I would like to pay off in this lifetime from school. Today I sat down and made a budget which is a first step I’m very proud of! My next steps will be to open up a retirement fund, create a savings account (I don’t have one; I KNOW I KNOW, so bad) and to start educating myself on building wealth. I’ve been using my Mint app again to create budgets and track my bills. I would highly recommend checking it out if you haven’t already.
  3. Work on my own projects: I am incredibly grateful for my job and the opportunities that have come my way because of it. However, in my heart I know that I am going to end up doing something creatively driven and I know I want to be my own boss. My dream is to have an amazing home office with exposed brick and a dog at my feet. I want big windows that let in sunlight and a job I feel passionate about. This year I want to focus on this blog as a creative outlet as well as other projects which will one day allow me to make money from home, on my own terms.

I love the feeling of a new year and a fresh start. I hope you enjoyed hearing some of my resolutions and I hope you’ll leave yours down below. I would love to hear them! Have an amazing weekend. XO

I’m Back!

Hi Everyone!

Is anyone still here? I’m not really sure. I don’t really know what happened. Everything has been so crazy the last few weeks and I didn’t get around to posting anything. Oops! I haven’t posted something in a month and I feel pretty bad about it HOWEVER I am back and ready to return to blogging.

I want to fill my blog with content that is meaningful, pretty and inspiring. I want content that’s actually worth something and in order to do that I feel it may be best for me to post less and create better content. So I’m thinking maybe once or twice a week rather than 3x a week might be the best possible way for me to do that.

I will definitely be watching this video from Sazan Hendrix for some blogging inspiration 😉

In other exciting news it is officially my favorite time of the year, I just bought a car and I booked a trip to Spain so there should be some interesting content coming. Once again I’m so appreciative of everyone who has read, liked or commented on any of my posts.

Have an amazing Wednesday Everyone!

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-XO Amber

Why Acceptance is So Important

I took a week off of blogging just to recuperate after losing my cat. Sometimes it’s important to sit back, reflect and give yourself time to process your feelings.Later in the week I got a call that my Grandma who lives in North Carolina was in the hospital with some medical issues so it really was a whirlwind of a week. But grandma is doing okay and it’s time to get back to blogging!

All of these issues in my life got me thinking a lot about acceptance. I think when you’re going through something difficult like a breakup, a death or a disappointment, you get so caught up in not understanding why things have to be this way. Why do people and pets have to die? Why do bad things happen to good people? Why do some great couples break up? A lot of the questions we have, we’ll never have answers to.

Life is a series of ups and downs and it will always be this way. Something I’ve learned and something I feel compelled to share with others is learning about ACCEPTANCE. Dwelling on a situation will continue to make you feel worse and worse. The human mind tends to have a hard time accepting things and you might keep replaying things over and over in your head. But you have to find it in you to accept the things you can’t change.

We’re so fortunate that as humans we have a lot of choices in life. But there are certain things in life that I truly believe and know we do not have a choice in. And these are the things we have to accept. We have to wake up every day knowing that we will get through what we’re going through and that everything WILL be okay.

Acceptance isn’t something that is easy but it’s something that’s really important for your mental health. Dwelling is damaging. For me what helps is simply making an effort every day to tell yourself that this is how life is. Life is hard. Life is amazing. We’re here and we have to make the most of it.

I hope your Monday goes amazing and I hope you’ll leave this post a like or a comment letting me know your thoughts on this topic. Don’t forget to follow this blog for more posts like this one and check out my social media pages which are linked on my sidebar 🙂

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Until next time!

-XO Amber

Saying Goodbye

Yesterday I woke up to another rainy Fall day. It was one of those days where you just don’t feel like doing anything and you want to lounge in your PJs all day. I ended up staying in my night shirt all day under a blanket drinking hot chocolate.

I adore lazy Sundays

Sometimes life works out in the strangest of ways. I was home and so was my mom, who was supposed to be out running errands but decided to come back home to throw some vegetarian chili in the crock pot before heading out again. My younger sister was at work and my nephew wasn’t over like he usually is on Sundays. Suddenly, my cat Peaches who is 15 and very frail, collapsed to the floor. We wrapped him in a blanket and made him comfortable because we knew it was his time to go. He has been deteriorating for awhile and we knew this day was coming. Within two hours he had passed on and I was left with the vague, empty feeling that comes with losing a pet.

Although he wasn’t human he was definitely family and although I’m so saddened by this tragic event I feel lucky to have been there when he passed. The house was quiet and my mom and I made his experience the best we could. He lived a very happy 15 years and he’s in a better place now with no pain or suffering but it’s still so upsetting. I can’t believe he won’t be sleeping under the Christmas tree this year or trying to steal our food every night at dinner. He was such a good cat and for that I had to dedicate this blog post to him. Goodbye my sweet Peach. You were so loved.

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If you have any tips for coping with pet loss please let me know. I hope you all have an amazing Monday and I hope you all hug your pets extra tight tonight.

-XO Amber

 

Casual Friday

Hey guys!

Today I wasn’t really in the mood to do any kind of deep, inspirational post. I thought I would keep things light and airy since it’s Friday and give you guys some random facts about me so you guys can get to know the girl behind this blog a bit better. Hope you all enjoy!

1.) I absolutely love Christmas. It is hands down the best time of the year and I have always been obsessed. I actually was Christmas two years ago for Halloween.

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2.) I broke my left arm when I was 5 because I fell off the monkey bars. I ended up in a bright purple cast and my arm still isn’t completely straight.

3.) Mozzarella sticks are my favorite meal and I could eat them everyday as sad as that is.

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4.) Besides mozz sticks I also really, really love dessert and breakfast food. I can eat cupcakes for breakfast (and I have on many occasions). And I would eat french toast over dinner food any day.

5.) I’m a bit of an adrenaline junkie and I love doing exhilarating things. I’ve done a hot air balloon ride, I’ve cliff jumped, zip-lined in Mexico, swam in an underground river through caves and the list goes on. I also love roller coasters.

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6.) I’m extremely empathetic the majority of the time toward other people and sometimes I literally feel like I can feel other people’s pain.

7.) I have an amazing natural sense of direction and I regularly test myself by not using my GPS when I get lost. I call it “my game” and let’s just say other people hate when I play it when they’re in the car  😉 It actually runs in my family and my dad is the same way.

8.) I come from a mostly female family. I have three sisters and almost no male cousins besides a few on my dad’s side. When my nephew was born we were all shocked because we were convinced we couldn’t make boys.

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two of my sisters my nephew and me on the right

9.) I hate scary movies and I won’t watch them. I end up laying awake with my over-active imagination and freaking out for nights on end if I watch them. Sometimes even scary commercials are too much for me. I’m surprised I’ve gotten through seasons of American Horror Story and even that show I can’t watch alone.

10.) I have olive skin that tans extremely easily and I rarely get burnt. I get so many different assumptions about what I am like Portuguese, Syrian, Hispanic, etc but it’s actually just really strong southern Italian genes passed down from my grandfather. The rest of my bloodline is just Irish, French and Scottish.

I hope you guys enjoyed this fun post and got to know a little bit more about me. Leave me a comment below and let me know something about you! I would love to hear it. Have an amazing Friday!

-XO Amber